What is it like to be gay in the Exclusive Brethren?

New Zealander Craig Hoyle

New Zealander Craig Hoyle

Part 1 of the Craig Hoyle Story

New Zealander Craig Hoyle is hilarious, intelligent, warm, loving … and gay. What is especially remarkable is that 20-year-old Craig Hoyle, like generations of his family, was brought up in the Exclusive Brethren Church – one of the most homophobic of modern-day cults.

As you read Craig’s story, you will begin to understand why his life became unbearable and why he decided he had no choice but to leave the Exclusive Brethren.

It is sad to add that Craig’s story is not unique – not by any means.

The special thing about Craig Hoyle is his courage.

We salute the man Craig Hoyle!

Notoriously isolationist and conservative, the Brethren started in the UK in the 1820s but it only arrived in Invercargill, NZ in December 1992. It now has around 160 members in NZ’s southern-most city.

The eldest in a family of seven children ranging down to nine years old, Craig until recently worked in his dad’s Invercargill tyre shop. His whole life, from his day to day work and leisure through to his lifetime prospects, were mapped out inflexibly, and enforced, by the church.

Perhaps it might have been a bearably conformist life if Craig wasn’t gay.
In his own words Craig, comfortable with being identified by his real name and background, tells his remarkable and inspirational story to GayNZ.com’s Matt Akersten.

Read Part 2 of Craig’s story

The Exclusive Brethren agree to settle lawsuit

After a grueling full day in court, settlement was reached in the long-running law suit between Peebs.Net and the Exclusive Brethren. The fact of settlement is public, but not the terms.

We will publish what we are able as and when lawyers advise.

Meanwhile, the wording used by the Court Reporter seems to underline the effort of the process!

Case Name: Bible & Gospel Trust v. Twinam et al
Case Number: 1:07-cv-00017-jgm
Document Number: 159

MINUTE ENTRY for proceedings held before Judge J. Garvan Murtha: Status/Settlement Conference held in chambers on 11/23/2009. Present were Matthew Kirtland, Esq. on behalf of pltf; Ronald Shems, Esq. and Rebecca Boucher, Esq. on behalf of dft Timothy Twinam. Statements by counsel. After extensive negotiations and discussions between the parties, a confidential settlement was reached. The parties shall prepare a written settlement agreement and file a stipulation of dismissal. The record of this conference shall remain SEALED until further order of the Court.

Scientology Attack by Nick Xenophon (video)

Here is a 2-part video of Nick Xenophon’s well-researched attack on Scientology in Australia this week.

Many will see startling similarities to the way the Exclusive Brethren cult exerts control over their members.

Part One (9 minutes 16 sec)

Part Two (8 minutes 20 sec)

Xenophon’s comments regarding tax-exemption strikes at the heart of both cults.

“Religious freedom does not mean you can hide abuse”

“…it is called the Law – and no-one is above it”

More information

Scientology under attack – are the Exclusive Brethren next?

November 21st, 2009

The impact of Australian senator Nick Xenophon’s comments in Canberra this week regarding the Scientology ‘church’ should not be under-estimated.

First there is the man. Nick Xenophon is an independant and carries no party allegience. His 400BC namesake was also a soldier as well as a respected historian. Nick has a background in law and is a resourceful and intelligent political warrior. Several are noting that the modern-day Xenophon seems to have a strategy in his carefully worded attack against the ‘religion’ of Scientology.

“There are a couple of things to know about Nick Xenophon. The first is that the independent senator from Adelaide has a genius for publicity. He’s a hustler par excellence. The second is he’s rationing his tabloid impulses in Canberra. Xenophon’s record to date suggests he’s opting for strategy rather than sensation; picking his political fights, not going at everything like a bull at a gate.”

Source – Dogged crusader

This is not a ‘flash in the pan’. Xenophon has been planning his attack for some time:
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The Exclusive Brethren feel misunderstood

It’s tough being a cult. People look at you differently.

The Age newspaper reports yet again of hard questions being asked in Australian Parliament. This time it’s about Scientology, science fiction writer Ron Hubbard’s 1950 invention. Although the Exclusive Brethren evolved rather than were created, many of the effects of cultic behavior are startlingly similar.

Former Scientologists allege abuse, intimidation

The Age, Australia
by Katharine Murphy And Misha Schubert
November 19, 2009

Former members of the Church of Scientology have made explosive allegations about forced abortions, child abuse and financial extortion, prompting calls for a parliamentary inquiry.

Letters tabled by independent senator Nick Xenophon reveal claims of vulnerable people preyed on by a coercive and ruthless organisation that punished and shamed dissenters by physical incarceration, withholding food or intimidation.

Under the protection of parliamentary privilege, Senator Xenophon declared the church a ”criminal organisation”.

Prime Minister Kevin Rudd said they were ”grave allegations” and left open the prospect of backing a Senate inquiry into the church and its tax breaks. ”Many people in Australia have real concerns about Scientology,” he said.

Asked if the church would co-operate with any inquiry, Mr Brooks said it had ”always been willing to co-operate with any authorities on any concerns”.

Greens Leader Bob Brown backed an inquiry, but wanted it extended to the Exclusive Brethren and other groups. The Opposition said it would consider the terms of any inquiry.

Source (incl. video): Former Scientologists allege abuse, intimidation

You don’t need to have even an iota of religion to understand at a very basic level the difference between right and wrong. It is this basic human ability that makes the average person on the street increasingly angry when they recognize blatant hypocrisy.

If you have the audacity to suggest that you are the perfect church, the only religion, or in one particularly obnoxious case – ‘The Bride of Christ’ – then you open the door to your behavior being scrutinized very carefully indeed.
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Cult investigation includes the Exclusive Brethren

Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult

Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult

A two-part documentary that investigates the Exclusive Brethren and other cults is due to air in New Zealand next week. The first part of ‘Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult’ is due to be broadcast on November 25th and the conclusion December 2nd.

Ever since Kevin Rudd, now the Australian Prime Minister stated clearly that the Exclusive Brethren are “… an extremist sect and cult”, the media have correctly portrayed this little-known religious group as one of the more destructive and dangerous cults.

Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult gives viewers an intimate view of what life is like inside groups that some former followers say are cults operating in New Zealand.

“These former members have consistent stories about how the different organisations actually work,” explains producer Gary Scott, “and the techniques they say were used to control them, even though the belief systems can be miles apart.”

Source: Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult

The recent Exclusive Brethren sex abuse case in New Zealand is likely to feature, together with details of the destructive foray into politics that marked the early leadership of Australian Bruce D. Hales.

The two-part documentary consists of ex-believers’ stories, and investigates the similarities they say exist between groups including the Exclusive Brethren, Scientology, Centrepoint, Gloriavale, Avatar and the International Church of Christ.

Further information: Inside New Zealand: How To Spot A Cult

Fighting a cult – Exclusive Brethren v. Peebs.Net

The Exclusive Brethren prefer to attempt to silence criticism. Convinced as they are that they represent the only true church in Christendom, they do not believe in ‘turning the other cheek’ or even in attempting to enter into any form of meaningful public discussion as to their beliefs and practices.

The Exclusive Brethren do not attempt to recruit from the ‘outside world’ and prefer to cut themselves off from society quoting a doctrine of ‘Separation from Evil’ as their basis for doing so. The impact of this man-made edict is the vicious and enforced separation of family members should one or more suffer ‘Assembly Discipline’. The offenders are literally ‘cut off’.

The Peebs.Net website is not the first to have attempted to tell the truth regarding the Exclusive Brethren. In the late 1990’s a man called Richard Wyman operated a trail-blazing website that the Exclusive Brethren targeted for closure. A 2003 lawsuit was eventually settled out of court when Wyman realized the financial pressure that the Exclusive Brethren could use as leverage was vastly greater than his own resources. The Exclusive Brethren then took control of the Wyman website and it immediately ceased to exist as a way for family members to attempt to maintain contact.

Peebs.Net commenced operations within weeks of the closure of Richard Wymans site in early 2004. Since that time, the owners and operators have struggled to rebuild content and to recreate an infrastructure that enables thousands of affected people to renew old friendships, find lost family members and generally to stay in touch with events both within and surrounding a group of whom the Australian Prime Minister recently stated: “I believe this is an extremist cult and sect.” Kevin Rudd then stated “I also believe that it breaks up families”. (See http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,22288747-11949,00.html
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Exclusive Brethren sex abuse described as ‘plague’


‘Plague’ of sex abuse in church alleged

Sunday Star Times
October 18, 2009

The Exclusive Brethren Church is being rocked by accusations that it has covered up a “plague” of sexual abuse in its ranks.

Last week a former member of the church, 74-year-old Clive Allen Petrie, was found guilty in Nelson of nine counts of indecently assaulting girls under 12 and one of inducing a girl under 12 to do an indecent act on him. The case involved four girls, three in the 1950s and 60s, and the fourth in the 1980s.

Former church member Neville McCallum, who last week sent a letter to all 1900 Brethren households in New Zealand about alleged crimes and cover-ups within the church, says the Nelson case “is only the tip of the iceberg”.

And one of the four women assaulted by Petrie told the Sunday Star-Times there were many other cases of sexual abuse in the church.
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Exclusive Brethren man guilty of indecency

Jury finds ex-Brethren guilty of indecency charges

Nelson Mail
New Zealand

October 14, 2009

A Nelson jury has found a former Exclusive Brethren man guilty of indecently assaulting four young girls, in a case in which charges dated back over 50 years.

Clive Ellen Petrie, 74, of Wakatu, was this afternoon found guilty of nine charges of indecently assaulting girls under age 12 and one charge of inducing a girl under age 12 to do an indecent act on him.

Petrie pleaded guilty to another charge of indecent assault on a girl at the start of his trial on Monday in the Nelson District Court.

The jury of nine women and three men took over four hours to return their verdict.

The Crown said the charges related to indecent assaults against four women when they were young girls in the 1950s, early 1960s with a further lot of offending against a fourth victim in the 1980s.

Source: Stuff.Co.NZ – Jury finds ex-Brethren guilty of indecency charges

Exclusive Brethren indecent assault case continues

Oct 14, 2009
A former Exclusive Brethren church member facing charges of indecently assaulting young girls says he put his hand up the nightie of a young Nelson girl and touched her through her underwear because he was “curious”.
“I was curious about what young girls looked like and what they were like,” Clive Allen Petrie, 74, said in the Nelson District Court yesterday.
Petrie, of Wakatu, Nelson, faces nine charges of indecently assaulting girls under 12 years old and one charge of inducing a young girl to do an indecent act on him. A charge of indecent assault and a charge of inducing a girl under 12 to do an indecent act were yesterday withdrawn by the Crown.
Petrie has admitted one charge of indecent assault on a girl under 12 at her Nelson home. The victim, now aged 56, alleges Petrie assaulted her more than once.
The Crown alleges Petrie indecently assaulted four girls in total. It alleges the offending occurred in Nelson and Motueka in the 1950s and 1960s, with a further lot of offending, against the fourth alleged victim, now aged 31, in the Stoke area in the 1980s. The girls were different ages, but all were aged between five and nine when Petrie allegedly assaulted them.
Two sisters, now aged 54 and 63, say Petrie touched them indecently while they were away from other adults on the Motueka farm they grew up on. The fourth alleged victim said when she was five or six she sometimes stayed with Petrie and his wife in his Wakatu house and sometimes slept in the same bed as them. She remembered waking up once with Petrie’s hands touching her and her hand down his pyjama pants when she slept in their bed.
Petrie told his lawyer, Robert Lithgow, QC, yesterday that he had been made to leave the church after it discovered he had indecently assaulted the girl in the 1950s. He was allowed back in after a month.
He said touching the girl that way was a “vile thing to do” and he didn’t know why he did it.
At the time he was 23 or so, but didn’t know anything about sex or women, he said.
Petrie was adamant he had only indecently assaulted a girl on that one occasion and told Crown prosecutor Glen Marshall that this had satisfied his curiosity.
He said he loved the fourth alleged victim too much to do anything harmful to her, and described her as “sweet”. “We treated her like a daughter.”
Ethel Petrie, whom Petrie married when he was 29, also gave evidence yesterday.
She said the fourth girl was never allowed to sleep in the same bed as them. On occasions the girl fell asleep in the bed, she was moved back to her own bed when Petrie went to bed.
She said she could not imagine Petrie being able to touch the girl in her bed without her knowing.
In his closing submissions, Mr Marshall told the jury of nine women and three men that the similarities between the four women’s stories supported the allegations.
Each woman had spoken about events occurring to them when they were aged five to nine, and each of them talked about Petrie touching their vagina.
Mr Marshall said Petrie’s explanation that he had touched the girl out of curiosity was “just ridiculous” and that over the years Petrie had had an obsession with young girls.
Many people led sheltered lives but they did not, when they were 24, decide to embark on a “journey of curiosity” by lifting a young girl’s nightie and touching her, he said.
In closing, Mr Lithgow said the two sisters’ stories were too similar, even though the events happened 10 years apart, and that it was difficult to believe they had not spoken to each other.
It would have been easy for those women to have their memories poisoned by people who remembered that Petrie had once been thrown out of the church for an indecent assault.
He told the jury just because Petrie admitted one indecent assault did not mean the other alleged cases were true.
“What I ask you to do on behalf of Clive Petrie is to find that he’s told you the truth and to find him not guilty of all the charges.”
Judge Tony Zohrab was to sum up the case today.
Source: Nelson Mail – Indecent assault accused ‘curious’ about girlsIndecent assault accused ‘curious’ about girls

Indecent assault accused ‘curious’ about girls

The Nelson Mail

New Zealand

Oct 14th, 2009

A former Exclusive Brethren church member facing charges of indecently assaulting young girls says he put his hand up the nightie of a young Nelson girl and touched her through her underwear because he was “curious”.

“I was curious about what young girls looked like and what they were like,” Clive Allen Petrie, 74, said in the Nelson District Court yesterday.

Petrie, of Wakatu, Nelson, faces nine charges of indecently assaulting girls under 12 years old and one charge of inducing a young girl to do an indecent act on him. A charge of indecent assault and a charge of inducing a girl under 12 to do an indecent act were yesterday withdrawn by the Crown.

Petrie has admitted one charge of indecent assault on a girl under 12 at her Nelson home. The victim, now aged 56, alleges Petrie assaulted her more than once.

The Crown alleges Petrie indecently assaulted four girls in total. It alleges the offending occurred in Nelson and Motueka in the 1950s and 1960s, with a further lot of offending, against the fourth alleged victim, now aged 31, in the Stoke area in the 1980s. The girls were different ages, but all were aged between five and nine when Petrie allegedly assaulted them.
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